Only you can be the judge of this, but listen to your intuition. One of the biggest reasons that some men come across as creepy is that most of us never learn good ways to ask for sex. The more you can leave things open to possibilities, the more room you can give you partner. I have recently been having a run of bad luck with women. You could practice with each other sometime, which gives you the opportunity to tell each other if any phrases are especially good or particularly challenging for you.
People, especially women, hate being told what to do.
Asking someone what they enjoy sexually or what they fantasize about puts them in a vulnerable position. Let me start over. If they aren't ready for sex, this could put them off. In fact, the magic formula is the complete opposite of what most men usually get caught up in, which I refer to as the beg trap. So get comfortable with getting a little uncomfortable. Here are some powerful strategies you can use to be your own pleasure advocate and ask for what you want during sex:.